I remember when I moved out of my parents house, that figuring out where “home” was was something I thought about. Was I coming home from college for the summer, or visiting my parents for three months? Was I leaving home for four years, or moving to a new one?
It took me awhile to feel comfortable calling my college dorm room “home.” (And I’m not convinced I ever really did… I never felt that connected to Miami.)
The fall after I graduated, I moved to Colorado and finally felt like I’d landed. Maryland had been my home because my parents lived there and I grew up in the same house for 18 years. But I knew that house, and Maryland, wouldn’t be home forever.
Although I’d only driven through Colorado once or twice as a child on family road trips, being here and living here felt right. I moved around a lot at first, but as the years went by, I realized I identified myself as being “from” Colorado instead of Maryland. All my apartments and houses I’ve lived in over the past 14 years were homes for me. When I moved to Boulder, my connection to the state and to this particular town was stronger than ever. The air, the trails, the routes, the coffee shops… they fit.
And now, I’m leaving on a new adventure with my new husband. We’re leaving Colorado. We’re leaving Bolder. We’re leaving our apartment and putting all our material possessions in a 10′ x 15′ storage unit.
We’re moving to Hawaii for six months and then plan to travel through the US for a year when we return. We’ll have only clothes and a few essentials with us in Hawaii. A van for the road trip. Our possessions could be in storage for almost two years.
So where is home? It’s a question I have been pondering and mulling over recently. A good friend of mine has a great attitude about it: Wherever you are that day, is home.
Wherever we are.
Wherever we are. It’s a new perspective for me. One that intrigues and tantalizes. I want to explore it and feel it and notice it. I want to sit with it and say it to myself over and over. “I am home wherever I am.” Will it be challenging? Or will it feel natural right away? How will this new perspective effect other perspectives in my future? Will I find more or less meaning in tangible objects? Will I end up traveling nomad-style for longer? Or will I long to “nest”?
The concept of home has infinite variations. I love that about our world. Maybe Colorado was a stopping point in learning where my true home actually is. For me—today—it’s here. Right where I am. Wherever I am.
October 1, 2009 at 2:37 pm
Well said dear friend! I love that definition of home! Yes, I grew up in VA and that is a home of sorts, TX is where I think I really became “me” so that holds a big place in my heart as home. But I love the life I have in CO with my wonderful family and friends. So home is here, because I am. =) And I am going to miss you guys terribly! Much love and best wishes on your new adventures!!!
October 2, 2009 at 1:43 pm
Wow – Hawaii – that sounds wonderful!
October 4, 2009 at 9:19 pm
I look forward to following your new adventures. That’s a great perspective to have. good luck!
October 8, 2009 at 5:34 pm
Oh the universe is incredibly funny sometimes, as I was just thinking of this same exact thing. I’m embarking on a road trip of my own and wanting to sink more into the feeling that home is wherever I am. I know this trip will strengthen that for me and I am sure yours will for you as well.
I look forward to hearing how things go for you in Hawaii and beyond. I’m so excited for your trip! Hope you and your hubby have a blast!
Lydia
(@lydiology)
October 11, 2009 at 6:15 pm
Lydia – Thank you so much for your kind words. What does your road trip look like? When do you leave?
October 19, 2009 at 7:59 am
Well, I’m on the trip right now! It began in the beginning of October and will conclude sometime in June. I’m heading all over the country. At the Red River Gorge right now, heading to the East coast for a bit and then heading Southwest for the winter, California and Pacific Northwest in winter/spring, swinging back around to Indiana in the beginning of summer.
June 7, 2010 at 8:43 am
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